In this deeply personal episode, I invite you to delve with me into profound themes of loss, transformation, forgiveness, and personal growth. Drawing from my own experiences and reflections encapsulated in a powerful piece I wrote about forgiveness, which is not just a bunch of words, but a vehicle that many friends and clients have found profound utility in, in their own journeys, getting ready to let go of who we were and what got us, here, and those we loved and who loved us into the person we are today. We look into the heart of the human experience and the transformative power of letting go.

The episode reflects on the essential role that loss and tension play in our personal transformation. Together, we explore the profound notion of “I release you, so that you may release me,” discussing the interconnectedness of forgiveness, compassion, and self-love.

We unpack the concept of wholeness, not just as a state of being but as a gift that we give and receive. As we each embrace our unique paths, we learn to honour our scars as symbols of resilience, carriers of understanding, and harbingers of transformation.

Join me for this soul-nourishing episode that promises to leave you with a newfound appreciation for your personal journey and the transformative power of release. As we journey through a thoughtful exploration of love, loss, and growth, we are reminded that we are free, we are whole, and above all else, we are human.

Loss is a necessary part of change—change a necessary part of Growth.

The secret aim of all tension is Transformation.

A PRAYER OF LETTING GO
I release you, so
that you may release me.
The place that I take in your heart,
the way you speak to yourself in my voice,
and conjure my face,
let it be now only
the part of me
that you knew to be good,
that may serve to guide you home
towards your truth.
By this;
I make the way clear again
between us,
and allow the bonds and chains that
we felt as wounds,
to be loosened,
so that we may connect again
with that in the world
which we loved in our hearts
about each other.
By this,
I make the way clear again
for me,
to connect again
with that about Life
which I loved in my heart
about myself.
I release you, so
that you may release me.
That we may put down
the weight that we carried
from our time together
and our parting;
and have washed clean at last,
the lingering taste
of the way we parted,
and acknowledgement
of the scars that we held,
each in our own manner and measure
of reckoning
more by the lessons they describe
than the manner or measure
of wounding.
I release you, so
that you may release me.
That we may be left to carry only
that part of our song,
which knew only
how to love
and be loved,
something that may yet grow
into a feint hymn of fondness and appreciation
that is overheard being sung, unbidden
in the garden our hearts by a bird
whose name we never learn.
Here at the end of this cycle
there is nothing left to forgive.
I let it go,
so that I may belong, fully, to the next cycle,
and leave all that is small in me, behind me
and take all my inheritance with me.
I honour the one
that walked the road, that bore the chains,
that gave and received the wounds,
I carry your essence with me,
in the form of Understanding.
I am free.
I wish you to be free also,
and by that I am made free.
I am whole.
I wish you to be whole also,
and by that I am made whole.
Rocco Jarman
March, 2023

The secret aim of all tension is Transformation.